hello feiends

🎯 Relationship

Being the perfect partner is unsustainable. Always having the right thing to say, being 100% attentive, becoming SO GOOD it erases all doubt in your partner’s mind… These are pipe dreams.

As much as your recent relationship problems might be motivating you to change right now, you’re still a human being.

You absolutely will continue to make mistakes and hurt your partner—Unfortunately, this is non-negotiable!

That’s just how human relationships work. We all get into negative systems with the people who matter to us from time to time.

Conflicts continuing to happen doesn’t mean you’ve ruined your relationship forever.

🎯 Relationship

If you are almost breaking up practice clear, compassionate communication to understand needs, take necessary space to cool down and gain perspective, and address the core issues that caused the conflict, like unmet needs or fundamental value differences like. If the issues stem from fundamental values, it may be best to end the relationship, but if core issues are present, show genuine improvement and rekindle trust by expressing appreciation and love.